Everyone actually goes through moments to where they wonder that they could have handled a situation in a better way. There in fact are times where we lose our self-control and seems that we don’t have any idea on how it had happened and on why we have done it. Self-control actually is an important ingredient for us to achieving success in whatever society we are taking part in. This also could mean the difference in making good impressions or in making one that’s terrible. It also could change how people perceive you, which would depend with how you could possibly handle self-control.
Self-control is actually about two principles where the first principle would be observation. One of the best ways in understanding anything in our life would be to observe it. During the time that we start observing, it’s also the time that we start to understand on how it works. We tend to like to observe others, but we don’t pay enough attention in observing ourselves.
After waking up in the morning, one of the things that we do is to look in the mirror. After that, we observe ourselves so we could better prepare ourselves in interacting with society. This actually is the same principle that we need to observe our own character, beliefs and our actions to be sure that we are prepared in gaining self-control.
Another principle would listening. For most of the times, we tend to want people to listen to us, but we usually forget that we also need to listen not just to others, but also to ourselves. We always think and feel something in any point in time. By listening, we could then understand what really constitutes to something. If we consider listening to half of what we think and say, we will be able to understand if we really are making sense or not. Self-control in fact is not about on how you handle the outside world, but it actually on how you handle the inside of it. Anything that requires control needs to be understood. We cannot say that a person requires self-control without the person understanding what truly needs self-control.
Every people has the ability to achieve great self-control which will be able to push us towards greatness. You simply cannot copyright greatness. It’s then up to us to see the greatness that’s within ourselves and that self-control also is the initial step for us to achieve it. Our capability to regulate reactivity and impulsivity to the different life events will contribute to lending our strength to self-control.